and their love for us or ours for them didn't make one whit of difference.
I have observed this phenomenon between my AW and our Daughter. AW has been devoted to Daughter since she was born, and I can confidently say AW loves her more than anything or anyone. Even so, when Daughter begs AW to quit drinking, AW gets angry and hostile.
I can understand her not wanting to give up alcohol for me, but she won't even stop for the person she loves the most.