Old 07-15-2011, 09:29 AM
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SoloMio
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You can love a person, anyone, unconditionally and not enable or control or fall under the spell of having to "fix" them.

Loving a person unconditionally simply means that you love them as a child of God and you can see them with the eyes of compassion.

It does NOT mean you have to be responsible for them or sacrifice yourself for them. In fact, I would argue the opposite: that the love many of is feel is VERY conditional: the condition being: "I don't like you the way you are, so I'm going to kill myself trying to change you so that you are worthy of the only kind of love I'm willing to give." Unconditional love is "I love you no matter how you choose to live your life just as I choose to live my life." It's like that poster that was popular in the 70s:

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
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