"An addict has two people inside of them. One is their real self, and the other is the addict self. The addict self wants to win and will do whatever it takes to survive. That includes lying about everything, to everyone. Sometimes you see glimpses of the real self that you miss so much. But until recovery occurs, you will also get blindsided when the real person is replaced by the cruel, lying addict, over and over"
Thank you changeschoices. I am reading this thread because I too can no longer deal with the lies. My daughter has been lying to me for years. I realize this is due to the addiction, but I am still angry and hurt. She entered a program on Monday and I am hopeful and fearful at the same time.
Bewitched, I am so sorry your husband is lying to you. It has been my experience that no matter how much the addict loves you, they always lie. It is our choice to stay and hear the lies. or work on ourselves.