Hi Shark ((((manly hugs)))).
What you are going through sounds very much like what I just went trough and am still going through. I really feel for you dude. Luckily my daughters are adults and I didn't have to deal with that. I moved out about 2 months ago.
Based on my experience focus on yourself. As I have found out just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to live with them. This is a hard time but you can get through it.
As others have said, go to al-anon meeting and read/post here. We are here for you.
Just remember, nothing changes if nothing changes.
Your friend,