Ah guilt...the answer for any alcoholic who isn't ready to accept responsibility yet. Anything she has to say now is most likely the alcohol talking. Your responsibility now is keeping yourself sane for your kids. YOU know that you have done what you can, but her sobriety is on HER. When she can accept that, she can start helping herself. Keep posting here and look for the stuff here to read. There is some very valuable info here. Keeping you both in my prayers.