For me, unconditional love means I am consistently lovable regardless of my strengths or limitations, and when I understand that about myself, I begin to see something consistently lovable in others, even those who suffer from an unlovable disease.
I can love someone and not like what that person does and not enable bad behavior. I can love someone unconditionally and not accept unacceptable behavior.
I hear what you're saying, Cy. I'm not sure I share your opinion about what is unconditional love, but I certainly share your opinion AND your experience that things got better in my own life when I quit enabling and started minding my own business.
I love this program, and I still love that I learn something new all the time.