Thanks alone... I guess the downside is that if it doesn't work then I've wasted a lot of money trying and have to start over with someone else... But I feel, in my gut, that it's worth a try.
AH's m.o. is to argue, refuse to do things and be uncooperative but when he sees I am serious he turns his opinions around-- granted that didn't apply to recovery but I think that right now he's refusing to consider mediation bc in his mind he believes that if he refuses it means I won't go fwd with the divorce...