With mine...my friend who has never dealt with addiction in any way told me I should take him away from everything, help him detox, and be there to support him. Her heart was in the right place but this is impossible to do, as we all know.
My friend who left her alcoholic husband 10 years ago offered me place to stay when things were bad and a "call me ANYTIME" you need to talk.
The "normies" just dont understand the disease, the process, or what we are going through!