Transform - As the mother of an addict, I can tell you that I have provided my son with respect, treatment, compassion, ad nauseum. If they don't want it, they don't want it. And when they are 18, 19, 20 years old....not a thing you can do about it. If he's living under my roof, he has to abide by my rules. PERIOD. If he chooses not to do that, he's out.
Sheneedshelp has given her daughter many warnings. She's 19...an adult...old enough to vote and go to war. She's also old enough to understand the consequences that her parents have laid out for her and got drunk AGAIN anyway. She's already been in trouble with the law and is putting her college scholarship in jeopardy. She is self-sufficient in many ways already and apparently doesn't believe she needs her parents to provide a home for her anymore. She made her choice.
Sheneedshelp -- I KNOW how hard this is....and how hard it will be in the days and weeks to come.
We are here to support you every way we can. Keep coming back. ((((Hugs)))