Katie,
God, I hate addiction, unfortunately this disease has tenacles that reach far and wide, and affect everyone the tenacles come in contact with.
I sure do agree with Ann, flip through your check books, my exabf snatched one out of the middle of mine. Fortunately for me, when I was flipping my couch seats, I saw it, it was folded in threes, like he would do to put in his wallet, somehow in his drunken addicted mindset, it never made it to his wallet. I guess he was planning to write a check to himself and forge my signature. He also wrote down my cc number and expiration date, charged over $1,000 in phone sex, needless to say, I filed a report with the sheriffs department,and, pressed charges, he ended up spending 6 months in jail. It is amazing and sad what they will do to get money to buy drugs.
I appreciate your update, and no, you are not cold or harsh, there is nothing more that you can do, the ball is in his court.