I think maybe it's best if HE started to worry about having a safe place to live and what to eat, to supply these basic functions for himself...maybe that is the key for him...everyone else seems to be doing everything for him and he has stuck to mama's nest....He is 40 years old...if he doesn't learn to fend for himself????? If you suddenly were abducted by aliens and taken to the mothership....and he had no one to fall back on, he would HAVE to sink or swim.