The great thing is you can see and talk about your feelings.
Your feelings are obviously telling you you DON'T LIKE your husband being a bump on a log in your life.
So now, what are you going to do about it?
The ball is in your court.
You can accept he is a bump. You can say no thank you to bumps as husbands and separate.
Those be your choices.
Both bring their own kind of peace.
I would look at choosing one for your own sanity.
Hugs and good luck.
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