I see this a lot on this forum and elsewhere, but I'm not a big fan of "it takes what it takes" or "willingness born out of desperation is a gift" - a lot of people are simply given a "solution" that is incompatible with their temperament, and no one tells them that there are other ways. People just sit by and watch because they had to hit "rock bottom" before they "surrendered" to a particular methodology.
Very twisted thinking.