Originally Posted by Lorelai
Thanks everyone. Great words. I think I'm getting there. Of course, I thought I was getting there before - hence, my confusion.
My Expectation:
My expectation of living with a spouse that is willing and able to share his life with me is reasonable.
My spouse is unable to fulfill this expectation.
My boundary:
I will not live with a spouse who does not fufill this expectation.
OR
I will not allow the fact that this expectation is not being filled to ruin my life.
My choice.
I guess I get hung up on words too much sometimes. I am just afraid that people may read a sentence that says "Expect nothing." and use that as an reason to accept anything.
You're all the best. Thanks -
L
You are getting it, but I would gently urge you to not use the word expect... I take modest umbrage only because I'm concerned for you, not because I'm trying to be a prig.
To my liking, an expectation presumes an outcome. That's the nut of my protest (and I believe I duth protest to much.. so I'm going to shut up now!)
I love you all,
Cheers