Originally Posted by
jamaicamecrazy 
I like that I have this faith in others and in the best outcome. It has helped me professionally and in many relationships but I know that it is not working for me here.
ME TOO!!! I have always wanted to see the best in everyone! Wanted to believe that deep down everyone is a good person. I've always felt that by not having "faith" in my AH - I was giving up on him, or labeling him as damaged goods, or whatever.
The reality is... he has continually shown me WHO HE IS... and I have continually chosen TO IGNORE IT!!!!!! Ack. And that's not to say he's wholely a bad person, he's not. He's just not a person that I really want in my life. He does things that I don't agree with. And yet, my heart keeps me stuck - wanting to think he will somehow magically change into this husband I have built up in my mind.
I'm struggling with this reality today (and yesterday), so I'm grateful for this thread. Grateful for the opportunity to talk through my thoughts/feelings.