I was always the primary breadwinner in our family. Thank God because if I had to rely on my exah for financial support, my son and I would have been homeless and on welfare a long time ago.
I could never rely on someone else for my or my kids financial well-being. For me, it would mean giving way too much control over my future and my life to someone else...and if that someone else happened to be a drug addict or alcoholic...well...the stress would kill me.
Its hard to juggle my career and motherhood. I admit that there have been many days where I looked at SAHMs with alot of envy...and yet, in the end, I think my son appreciates how hard I work and the stability my job gives us.
I can only say what works for me.
You've got to do what is right for you. But please...whatever you do...don't make a decision like this based on what might or might not cause your AH to relapse. Life isn't stress free. If he needs an excuse to drink, he'll find one without your help. Do whats right for YOU and YOUR kids.
Hugs...