I've always said the greatest gift from recovery for me was
learning to give myself permissions:
- Permission to live my life in a manner that is the most healthy for ME
- Permission to look at areas where I am harsh on myself and re-evaluate if my perspective is accurate or not
- Permission to do things that may not garner approval from others close to me but that are the right choice for ME
- Permission to let go of things that really don't belong to me (responsibility, guilt, shame, etc. that is not mine)
I found that at first it was
work and
learning a skill, to give myself permissions, but after it became internalized to me in reality, it became much more natural - sort of fake it 'til you make it.
CLMI