I have been on SR for almost 3 years and you are still posting the same goings on Moni. You are 3 years older, your family is 3 years older and 3 years of life has passed you by. There isn't anything I can say, nor anyone that will cause you to make a change. Only you can. I am sad for you though because (based on your actions or lack thereof) you obviously expect and accept so little out of life, not just for yourself, but for your children.
I think you are dreaming in techocolour Moni if you think that your husband is going to make sweeping changes because he made an appointment to see a counselor. Hope is not a strategy.