He's locking me out of the bedroom...literally.
Good morning All, I haven't been on much lately & usually post on the recovering alcoholic side, but I need advice or insight today if you could help, please. I have been sober for almost 7 months.Just a little background: I own a home with the father of my 4 yr old daughter. He has his 2 other kids & my 16 yr old son as well in the household. He is still an active alcoholic. Drinks a 12 pack every night after work. Anyways, about 3 months ago, he started kneeing me in the tailbone very hard in his sleep. I couldn't take one more night of being jolted awake in pain like that, so I started sleeping on the couch. That did not mess up our sex life, because we haven't had one since he's always too drunk. One of the ways I show him love, is to lay out all his work clothes for him & bring him coffee while he is in the shower. I did this every morning without fail, even if we were in the midst of an ugly fight or not speaking. It was my way of saying "Despite the current circumstances I love you & have faith someday it will change" Well, yesterday, as I was sitting on the couch reading my daily devotional, waiting for him to wake up, I heard him get up & lock the bedroom door, then get in the shower. I felt very hurt & slipped a note under the door saying I would remove all my personal belongings from his room. He called & said "what, I'm not allowed to lock the door when I want to? I'm tired of all this. Good luck to you" So, I moved all my things into another room. Last night before bed, he said he loved me and missed me, then went in his room, locked the door and went to sleep. How do I respond appropriately to this? He had never once lock me out in all our 5 years together before this. I can't leave. I have no job, no license to drive for at least 7 more months (DUI). I don't want to leave. I want happy & normal beautiful chaos. Not this sadness, what to do?