Tuffgirl,
When I sat down with the lawyer a while ago, he asked me if I wanted to file for dissolution of the marriage or legal separation.
I like closure. I like results. For me, I knew that because we have a child together, we'd always have to work things out divorced or not. There was no end. I'd have more peace but I knew conflicts could continue over parenting issues. To me, legal separation meant even less closure and I didn't want that either.
Tough spot to be in. I've often wondered what the differences between being separated, legal or not but still married would look like.