You are a good person and you are hurting yourself when you get drawn into it all again. You owe yourself peace of mind. Mine isn't getting it either, he calls and calls but I know I need to work on myself and he needs to work on himself. I starrted going to family meetings and found that by me answering the calls it wasn't hurting him just not allowing myself to detach so I can heal as well. Check out some info on codependants; I'm still learning and still occationally get sucked into his dramatics too. It's one day at a time for us, just like it is for them. Stay strong in your convictions and know that everything happens for a reason and you don't have to "answer" to anyone except your higher power.