Hi Seenet - I don't believe this would be an issue for you if you had been with your wife pre-recovery...if you had experienced the heartache of knowing that your spouse's substance and their use thereof comes before anything and everything.
I can't tell you how many times I have said to my AH, "I don't understand. If I did something which was so hurtful to you and damaging to our relationship, and you asked me to give it up, I would do so out of love for you and respect for us, no questions asked."
What's more important to you...your wife and your relationship with her, or your love of pot?