my husband just checked into an in patient program and i feel TOTALLy out of the loop. noone has contacted me, i have no idea what is going on so i have to say i can relate to your feeling of disconnection. and i worry that when he gets home, he will have changed so much over the course of the month, that i wont be able to relate b/c i didnt experience everything with him. im hoping hes keeping a journal, but as many have said, maybe he wont want to share. i just hope i can change with him and grow in a positive light.