i can relate to what you are going through. my AH is 3 months sober now but that first month or so he did not want to touch me, sleep with me, or make love to me. he never really told me anything about his meetings, the people, the subject matter. and to this day still hasn't told me. i think he just wants to put that part of it behind him. but i have to admit, at first i felt so rejected but i know it had a lot to do with all the meds they put him on (he is manic on top of the drinking!) so he had no desires and probably struggling with his own feelings that i had to put my needs aside. your husband will come around. and like you said, recovery first. i wish you the best.