Oooof.
In the way far distant past, in a land, far, far away, I almost did the exact thing your AW did this morning. I've never been an alcoholic, but lived in a house with one and I must've learned it well.
It took years of work to get that kind of behavior GONE from my life and start learning serenity. Funny, exABF used to say that's why he had to drink so much (cycles of addiction much?)
I hope it gets better for all of you soon.