Good question! I am having a hard time addressing my RAH recovery, mostly because I can't and don't trust it (him). I personally have kept my reaction to a minimum I guess because I want his recovery to be for him, not because he is trying to please me. I like anvil's recommendation, but really you need to do what feels right for you. My RAH and I never really talk about how he is doing and what is happening in his recovery. I think if we did I would be more likely to want to say or do something.