3 days prior to my marriage of my AH, he got his first OVI. I had known him for a year, but denied to myself that he was an alcoholic until he got his OVI. Silly me, I thought by setting the boundary that he either quit drinking and get help or I was not going through with marriage that things would resolve. However, it just led to him abusing pills and now steroids. I am involved in Al Anon and it does help tremendously. I also look at my situation and do thank my higher power b/c if it wasn't for this man, I would find another one that was also alcoholic/ addict... that has been my pattern. Maybe now, I am finally ready to acknowledge it and deal with it.