I never got to a point where I could have contact with my EXAH and not be in a tailspin for days.
I take that back. He did call me out of the blue about 9 years ago to ask if I had ever been tested for HIV because he was in the clinical stages of AIDS at that time.
It was like hearing a ghost's voice. It was a strange experience, for lack of a better word.
He was polite and respectful, shared that he had remarried (which I already knew) and had quit doing the 'hard' drugs.
That was a whole different ball of wax compared to the manipulative, angry, psychotic EXAH I knew, and who kept calling me early in my recovery till I started hanging up on him.