My wife didn't go into her alkie phase until the girls were teenagers. Before that we were pretty much a normal family. I can still look back on the good days and see things that I would have done different knowing what I know now. Its all part of being a parent.
BTW, my girls and I are very good friends and I have a very close relationship with them and their families. Grandkids are great.
As my one daughter says Grandkids are your reward for not killing your own kids. (Joke)