WTBH, ((((hugs))))
Yes this is the right place. I feel so sorry for you and your daughter and I don't have any experience with this. My wife didn't go alcoholic until both of my girls were in high school.
All I can offer is prayers and compassion. Knowledge is a powerful thing, find out what you can about the effects of alcoholism on young children. The ACOA forum my have people who can offer wisdom based on their own experiences. Just a thought but the red and black may not be her anger at you but the anger she is picking up from you towards your AH.
I'm sorry I don't remember but do you still live with your AH?
I wish you both the best.
Your friend,