Ok, I could give lots of soothing words here but damn...I would be furious too! All of your savings, poof! Little kids, no jobs...life you thought you were going to have, poof!
Here's an idea - go find a safe place away from people (and your kids) and THROW CRAP!
I took a box of dishes and glasses that was destined for Salvation Army and broke every single one in the garage. Concrete floor. Awesome sound! Ok, so I had to clean it all up but it was worth it. That was the one time I just let loose and got destructive. I moved out shortly thereafter.
Some wise SR folks have talked about taking a stack of rocks, label each one with whatever injustice you have endured, and THROW IT! I don't remember now who said that, but thank you... it resonated with me.
Feel your anger - rightful anger - because in order to let it go, we need to feel it and process it first.
I am sorry for your losses. Take good care!
~T