During fights, My RAH would indirectly say that he was sober because of me and or for me. (not true, he put himself in rehab) But what this has caused is when he is struggling with his sobriety he will "evaluate me" so to speak to see if im worth being sober for. Of course he can find much flaws in me and justifies a relapse. This of course is not recovery. He has to own his recovery with/without me and not for me.