As an addict I have, and so have many of my peers, called our spouses COMPULSIVE, INSANE, OBSESSIVE, PARANOID, DELUSIONAL, etc.
I did not get it, until I was the coaddict for an addict.
One time EMS came out, and said about my girlfriend, and addicts in general, who can you tell when an addivt is lying?
Their lips are moving.
Sad but true.
It is not you, but you must take care of you.