Me too! I actually got to the point (and am I still there) where I do not know what is genuine and what is manipulation. My "R"AH has been so good over the years at saying (and even doing) the "right" things but soon enough all the crap was hitting the fan again. Now the trust is so damaged I trust none of it. We have reached this place now where he doesn't say much and neither do I. I really hate it but at least I am not being sucked into believing anything that is false. There is nothing like getting your hopes up just to have them smashed. Then there is the quacking that makes you question yourself... could I really be the one causing such problems in his life? Hummm no but nice try...