Well sure the A wants a great relationship.....but what is that to an active A.....really?
It's someone who will pay the bills, clean up after them, take care of all the problems their drinking/drugging create so that they don't have to be responsible for a thing. They want someone who will let them continue their primary relationship---with their DOC---without interfering or expecting anything from them.
Is that really a relationship YOU want to be in?
Hugs and prayers, HG