Originally Posted by
ChristinaMarie 
...I have also decided that I am not going to drink for an undertermined amount of time... This feels right.
Seriously? You said earlier you have an ocassional glass of wine with dinner, or go out with your girlfriends once in a while. Do you really think you're in alcoholic territory?
What is your real motivation here? He told you that he can't be with someone who drinks, even socially, so now you've decided to see how long you can go without drinking. Too coincidental.
Some of us end up as alcoholics. Many many others end up not as alcoholics, but
married to alcoholics. I'd say you might want to pay a little more attention to the second one. Keep going to those alanon meetings, and determine why you are attracted to people like him in the first place.
I'm only saying this because I have done exactly what you are doing. **