Good point. Sounds like the OP is looking at this in a very negative filter.
In any given situation, we can CHOOSE to look at something from a positive or negative perspective. The positives of this are that this person did live a life helping other people in al-anon, even if, for whatever reason, they ended their own life. Nobody knows why anyone commits suicide. I'm sure the meeting was emotional, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't continue to use al-anon as a tool in your own recovery.
And yeah, if people in AA used every death or suicide as an excuse not to go to meetings, they'd all relapse...
Originally Posted by
skippernlilg 
I am hearing from a friend of mine who's a regular AA person that death is rampant at her meetings. They get swallowed up whole. She says that it convinces her to get better even more.
I haven't experienced this, and I honestly don't know how I'll realistically handle it if/when it happens, but I like the perspective my friend gave me.