I'm sorry that you feel you are being judged. I can't speak for anyone but myself. If anything I've ever posted sounds judgmental, it certainly was not intended to be that at all. I think it's a common human reaction to want to spare people the pain they are feeling, especially if the person giving the advise, experience, etc. has been there and can relate. Codies are compassionate and empathetic to the extreme, so this may be a factor that comes into play in a strong way. I hope this is making sense. And if I ever say something to anyone that comes off as judgmental...I apologize in advance. I know I still have work to do to tone down my desire to save the entire universe.