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m1k3 What does this have to do with your recovery?
Your recovery does not depend on her. It doesn't depend on her lying or not lying, it doesn't depend on her drinking or not drinking. It depends on you and only you.
She has to own her own recovery just as you have to own yours.
Are you going to Al-Anon? If not its something you should consider.
This has to do with how I treat all people. If I know that someone is lying to me, I tell them so. I hear what you're saying about how our progress in each of our individual recoveries is not dependent on the other, and did not mean to suggest otherwise. Doesn't mean I have to accept deceit.
[edit: clarification] The reason this is important for my recovery is that I had stopped doing this with my AW. It's about returning to who I am.