My X tried after we were divorced to get a rise out of me by saying I had ruined my stepkids lives. It was insane. They were in their 20's and didn't live with us. He gave me a small divorce settlement that HE proposed. So his giving me that little bit of money in his fermented mind ment I ruined their lives ? It bothered me for a minute. "What other people think of me is not my business. " They are sick. In sick families it doesn't make sense to make sense of them. They are sick.