wantToBeHealthy, I have no experience with this type of situation and of course my codie wants to jump in with all sorts of advice.
(((((hugs)))))
My gut feel is that you have dealt with this kind of BS before. Go back to doing what worked. You know how you handled it in the past.
So, deep breaths and get back to living YOUR life. They'll do whatever they'll do with or without your input.
Keep on keeping on.
Your friend,