kittykitty--i have the same concern... mainly because i started holding myself back from posting---so who knows how a newcomer would feel.
i always thought that when you were in a position of power, the virtuous thing to do was to be responsible... and certainly not put others down. it's like that whole scenario where you want to get "in" some exclusive place and so does everyone else--who you've been empathizing with, but when you finally get in... you shut the door behind you, laughing at everyone you left behind.