I doubt there's a person here on this F&F board who hasn't ridden the merry-go-round about "talking" to the alcoholic in their life.
The thing is, alkies are functionally deaf, until THEY decide they need to change...
...just like we codies are functionally deaf - about why we would POSSIBLY want to tolerate such things in our lives and live in such a fashion - until WE decide we need to change.
CLMI