Thanks all... this is very helpful. It is easy to get tangled in 'God's will' and 'Let go and Let God' if you look at it as a cop-out to not deal with something that you should actively own and take part in. I think over the years my agnostic side of me has overruled my spiritual side on the concept of 'Letting go and letting God'.
That is my primary concern...finding the balance between being led by my self-will versus God's will. I can be pretty assertive. I am also very goal oriented. And I recognize that this is one of my defects that is also one of my assets...and moderation is the key. I can also get controlling and try to force my needs onto someone else when in fact, they are mine to deal with. I guess in that sense God's will would be for me to keep it on my side of the street?!