I think I understand what you're talking about. I've heard people close to us (my ABF and me) say things that make me think our r'ship just ran its course.
But that's when I look at things through his empty bottles, such a distorted view.
Nope, it's the disease in our house, plain and simple. That is what has caused our demise, no question about it.
I'm just doing what I need so that I can recover from the affliction.