OK ladies. Tell me if I'm way off base here. I was talking with one of my friends and told her that I didn't expect anything from my H. If he did something that I thought was good, I was pleasantly surprised. She looked at me and said "Isn't that sad?"
Since then, I've been thinking about this topic. I completely understand that I shouldn't expect something from an A that is impossible for him to give. I understand that his addiction prevents him from fulfilling these expectations.
On the other hand, I expect a husband to (at a minimum) respect my feelings, be faithful to me and be there for me when I'm going through hard times.
I'm afraid that if I let go of all expectations of people in my life, I'll be taking a step backwards. If I don't expect anything of the people in my life, what does that say of my self respect?
Maybe this is an issue of defining expectations and boundaries in my mind. I do expect to be treated well. Help?
L