Originally Posted by
Leaping 
I try and think what I tell my own daughter if she came to me and asked if she should get back with her husband after 3 children, 2 rehab stints, 1 failed suicide attempt and a partridge in a pear tree - I would say run run away!
And that is the painful reality of these situations. However, I do read it can get better if the A seeks and adheres to a solid recovery plan/program. I have met RA's who are wonderful self-aware emotionally mature people. I know its possible...but I don't know if it is possible for my husband and our marriage. And I no longer really care much. Because I, too, have daughters. And I would tell them the same thing you said above. Makes me feel like a big hypocrite when I frame it that way.
Take good care,
~T