@Buffalo....its called PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE...
do you know it takes 21 times to make an old habit dissappear as we PRACTICE the new good habit...yep 21 times......u keep doing the GOOD and it wipes out the BAD....
i did something too this weekend...my dad wanted to engage into a fight over HIS neighbour and ME not on speaking terms with her because my dad says so....i came right up to him and said " you know what dad, i am not going to engage into your issue and do not make it MINE..." he pouted! my dad pouted! wow! a 65 year old man has temper tantrums too....i see it clearly now...but i practiced alot before getting to that point where i could say something....
and so feeling GOOD about it....