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Old 05-31-2011, 11:32 AM
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m1k3
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Fandy, I agree completely. She has crossed the line and a zero tolerance policy should be established. This was far beyond some casual drinking at a friends house, which should be a groundable offense.

Have a serious discussion with your husband to establish the rules and consequences before you discuss it with her. It is not a discussion, she gets no say in the matter. That is why it is so important to have this worked out with your spouse. If she comes up with a valid point tell her you will think about it but do not change your mind during this session.

The next step is to discuss this with the rest of the family so your other children know whats going on.

And lastly stick to your guns. No second chances. It's ok to have a sliding scale of punishment just so you aren't kicking her out of the house the first offense but make sure this is clear up front. Don't ever let her think she can get away with this type of behavior.

I managed to raise 2 teenage daughters in to fine wonderful people who have great families of their own. It isn't easy but it is well worth it.

Probably the most import thing is for you and your husband to agree to the conditions and stick to them because she will try to play you off against each other.
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