Nicam your post hit home with me.. not loving someone that can't love back is a hard lesson I am having to learn.
Sorry you had to go through that with the ex.
I am trying to stop wrapping my 'normal' brain around what it is this guys do or say. They fool even the most together of women.
My guy really hit the skids too before rehab. Not much has changed as far as I can see in terms of his ability to relate to me in a healthier way.
Emotional unavailability is very tough to accept. Because we are OVERLY available as codependents. Our cup runneth over with love and help. But they cannot possibly match that in a healthy way, even IN recovery sometimes.
Great quotes in this thread too. We need a thread of great quotes.